Indonesian social issues—domestic violence, poverty, and corruption—are not solved by adopting Japanese stoicism. They are solved by amplifying the best of bapakism : the father as a moral, present, and emotionally honest leader.
Japan, infamous for its own history of domestic silence, has a different pathology. The Japanese bapak rarely hits his wife. Instead, he deploys mukashibataki (economic and emotional coldness). He gives an allowance like a master to a servant. He retreats into silence. The abuse is the absence. japan xxx bapak vs menantu mesum best
In Indonesia, berbakti kepada orang tua (devotion to parents) means the bapak will live with his married children. The elderly Indonesian bapak never retires. He becomes the kakek (grandfather) who picks up grandchildren from TPA (Al-Qur'an school) and lectures at family arisan . The Japanese bapak rarely hits his wife